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New link on the Sex Offender Housing Restrictions Page where I added my ideas on why these law protect no one

This new link at  shows that the restrictions on sex offenders only delay his access to victims by a few minutes or seconds and why they are a bad idea.


Fed the cats at noon today and then had to stand guard.

We have a thief in the neighborbood. He has a striped tail and a mask. It is a raccoon and I had to stand guard because the stupid cats let the raccoon have as much of their food as it wants. When he comes up they move out of his way. Being a convicted felon I cannot use a gun but as aggressive as the little beast is and as close as I am to him I think I can get him an arrow.


From Bonnie Maglin's Angry Marriage Page 9

Provokers are couples whose anger is not reciprocal; rather one drive the other to distraction. A good guy/bad guy marriage in which one partner grumbles in exasperation while the other feels blameless or innocent of the accusations is characteristic of this one-side angry marriage.

Why I did not leave my wife until I was forced by the no-contact order between me and my victim.

Relunctance to break up a family keeps many people in relationships that have gone sour. No one wants to traumatize or uproot their children or have to deal with their pain and confusion. Some blackmail targets feel so passionately about their obligation to their children that they will make what they mistakenly see as a noble sacrifice and give up thier right to have a good life. Emotional Blackmail Page 50 by Susan Forward.

Are you under Emotional Blackmail?

Emotional Blackmail includes saying "If you don't do what I want you to do I am out of here." It can also include things like "If you think watching that is more important than me then I'm leaving." To threaten the entire relationship over the slightest thing is Emotional Blackmail. This is what my ex-wife was doing to me through the last 28 years of my marriage.

When I was a teacher and a book seller bought me dinner at Red Lobster my wife threatened divorce because the bookseller was an attactive woman. Fact is my major complaint about the new text book was that it made no mention of vacuum tube technology. This was the late 80's when the display devices used in all PC's included a picture tube. So my objection was based on the reality of that time.

"When we live with emotional blackmail, t eats away at us and escalates until it puts our most important relationships and our whole sense of self-respect in jeopardy." from Emotional Blackmail Pg xv by Susan Forward.  

Why obesity is sometimes tied to incest

A disproportionate number of incest victims, particularly women, allow themselves to be become overweight as adults.  The weight serves two important puposes for the victim (1) she imagines it will keep men away from her, and (2)the body mass creates a false illusion of strength and power. Many victims become terrified when they first begin to lose weight because it makes them feel helpless and vulnerable again.


Why my wife cut me off:

It is quite common for a[n incest] victim to feel reveusion at the thought of sex. This is a normal reaction to incest. Sex becomes an indelible reminder of the pain and betrayl. The tape starts in her head:"Sex is dirty, sex is bad....I did terrible things when I was little...if I do those terrible things now, I'll feel like a bad person again."

The truth about justice in this country today.

Cases are won or lost, not on the truth, but by the preponderance of perjury uttered by witnesses on the stand who lie with unpuity and then walk away. by attorney Steve Martini in his novel "Compelling Evidence."

Unhappy where you are. Come to God and Jesus will Help you:

9 ¶  Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10  Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
11  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

A True Double Standard - From a man once married to a woman who thought the marriage was all about her.

For the 27 years I was living with my wife she demanded I provide dinner out, flowers and jewelry every:

Valentine's day. I was lucky to get a card from her for this romantic holiday.

Mother's day: I never received anything for father's day from my wife.

Our Annaverary: This too was all about her. I never received a single gift on this day.

Her Birthday: Admittedly she did make me German Chocolate cakes early in the marriage but these stopped about 1985 that's 10 years of marriage.