so my victim/daughter, to rescue me from my unhappiness, tried to seduce me by asking me to "rub her down there." When Iowa's Polk County DHS told my wife that if I admitted what I did I would not go to prison it was a lie. The program they wanted to put my family in would have reunited the family and I would not have had a conviction on my record, but the records of my admissions of abusing her would have been subpoenaed by Blackhawk County and used to convict me.
I learned of this directly from the director of the Intra Family Sexual Abuse Treatment program who I called before my arrest.
The fact that treatment materials from a psychologist would be subject to subpoena discouraged me from going to the program.